An interesting question was posted on the message board, would you ask your fiancee before the engagement party for full disclosure and a credit check and background check?  Yes or No?  Of course both parties would disclose this information.  Would this hurt or help your relationship?
Me personally?  NO!  Why?  It’s TOO DAMN LATE!  I honestly [...]

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MP Dunleavy wrote an interesting article about spenders and savers marrying each other.  She followed it up by talking about what happens when your mate can’t manage money.  Basically she said that opposites are attracted to each other, but people typically say they want to be with or marry someone with similar financial values.  Yet [...]

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Here’s an interesting question, does not have a joint account or joint money, mean a lack of trust in a marriage?
Most people would say that joining finances before marriage is a bad idea.  There is always the possibility of things going south and the relationship ending on the rocks.  However, there is also the possibility [...]

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MP Dunleavy writes an interesting article about being the Family Bailout Fund.  It looks at what people think and do when their families start to hit them up for money.  Does your family treat you like an ATM?
Interesting question.  I am pretty grateful that my family does not.  Actually if anything people treat my parents [...]

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How do you curb a spendy spouse?  Is there a way to train someone to not spend money?  Can you subvert your nature?  This was a question on the message board.
I believe you can’t change a spendy spouse.  That isn’t to say they can’t change themselves.  You hear about Dave Ramsey followers who have given [...]

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I am part of the set of couples who share all money.  All money goes into one pot.  There is no differentiation between who makes the bulk of the money and who make less.  That we are equal partners in the relationship.  We both have equal says.  We get equal allowances to go out do [...]

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This week an article was published called “Confessions of a TARP Wife” in Portfolio.  Suggested by NY Mag to be Liz Peek, former NY Sun business writer, married to Citibank CEO Jeffrey Peek, it’s an interesting look at what the mega-rich are dealing with right now.  Their perspective on their loss of wealth and income.
TARP [...]

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How should you deal with finances before marriage?  Is there a line between marriage and just being in a relationship?  I think there is a definite progression in a couple’s finances before and after marriage.
First, when do you start talking finances?  I did a poll a few years ago and most people said when the [...]

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My DH isn’t really involved in our day to day finances. He has no idea what our grocery “budget” is, or what we pay for car insurance. He knows we have a mortgage, but probably couldn’t tell you the amount. He knows it’s with Bank of America, but wouldn’t be able to pay the mortgage. [...]

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How do you split assets when getting a divorced?  Especially when you don’t have a prenuptial agreement.  What is fair financially?  And how does it change if you don’t have kids versus having children?  Also does it matter if you are married long term versus short term?
I got two strange calls this weekend.  One was [...]

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