Comments on: Cheapo or Frugal?

By: LAL

LAL — Sat, 20 Jun 2009 02:02:16 +0000

FB, was it at least a short wedding? So you could go away dinner later?

By: FB @ FabulouslyBroke.com

FB @ FabulouslyBroke.com — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 19:01:04 +0000

CHEAP!!!

It sounds like a Dutch wedding I went to. NO FOOD served AT ALL. Including cake or favors. Only the simple ceremony and a small reception, no alcohol.

By: LAL

LAL — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 01:14:20 +0000

You can make a cake for very cheap as well.

By: Abigail

Abigail — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 23:12:20 +0000

I have to agree with everyone else: The only place they really stepped over the line was in having cake and not sharing. I know for a fact that you can get a very pretty Sam’s Club round cake for $16-17. So, even with a big crowd, you’d be looking at $50 for cake.

Otherwise, it sounds like a laid back, good time.

By: LAL

LAL — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 13:04:15 +0000

Simple can be our neighbors getting married this weekend in the backyard! But they are going to a restaurant after they get married. BUT I guarantee they will serve cake/dessert to EVERYONE!

They are only having 25 people and we were invited to the ceremony because we could see it anyway from our house.

But still that’s SIMPLE and FRUGAL. It’s not frugal to eat your cake and not give any to anyone else!

By: eemusings

eemusings — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 10:55:49 +0000

I saw that thread and I was totally taken aback. How could you serve and eat cake yourself in front of all your guests without offering them any???

By: Sp

Sp — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 00:18:25 +0000

Everyone says they want a “simple” wedding, but it is easier said than done. Just keep that in mind. (currently planning a “simple” wedding hahaha)

Putting the bridesmaid bouquets in vases at the head table is totally legit (in my mind!), because… it isn’t like the BM’s want to carry them around all night! Anyway, my friend did that at her (forma-lish, sorta) wedding and I didn’t bat an eye.

And not everyone cares about pictures. this has been the big thing in recent years, you always hear about how important they are — but do you really look at them all that often? Do they reallymake your marriage any stronger/better? No. (That being said, I’m getting a pro photographer. i just respect those who are ok with more snap shot like photos.)

By: LAL

LAL — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 18:33:53 +0000

I think everything but the cake was nice and frugal. I loved the tacos. Wouldn’t have worked with my family because they only eat some american and asian food. But I didn’t oay for centerpieces either.
My beef is with having a cake for only some people not ALL!

By: Meg from FruWiki

Meg from FruWiki — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 17:28:27 +0000

I’ve been to some pretty redneck weddings that make that look plush, lol.

At one in particular the music supplied via car stereo with a constant “ding ding” because the windows didn’t roll down and they had to leave the door open. The tiki torches that weren’t even unwrapped! The best man was wearing flip flops, jeans, and a wife-beater! I could go on, but you wouldn’t even believe me. And yes, very rural — in the soggy yard next to a mobile home. The marriage didn’t even survive the honeymoon. The groom, bless his heart, is getting married again this month (to a great and much classier gal).

I grew up in the country, so I don’t really mind weddings like that. They make good stories and I can’t believe the prices of weddings elsewhere! We had a big church wedding and dinner reception with a full jazz band for only a few thousand. Spending $25k or even $75k on a wedding seems ridiculous to me unless you’re REALLY rolling in dough.

However, not serving cake to everyone is a bit cheap. Wedding cake can be pricey, but they could have at least had someone bring some cupcakes or something & frost them up nice. But now that I think of it, I’m not sure they had cake at the wedding I went to. It was catered by Boston Market, though

By: Danielle

Danielle — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 17:08:10 +0000

It really depends on where your values lie.
For me, I don’t want the standard tacky reception hall wedding that everyone usually has. I think it’s silly to spend tens of thousands or the “average” 25000 on one day.

It also depends on why you’re having a wedding. Is it to feel like a princess for a day? show off? or to simply celebrate two people joining together in love?

Personally, I wouldn’t want a paper plate reception, a novice photographer or plastic “silverware,” but I intend to have a simple wedding without all the ridiculousness that women are convinced they’re “supposed” to have.