Comments on: Guest Post – Why I want to be a trophy wife

By: Norakism

Norakism — Sun, 21 Feb 2010 01:18:55 +0000

I think it’s clear that Megan is a prostitute, but there is nothing really wrong about being a prostitute. At least she is up-front and honest about it.

If I had to give Megan some advice it is that journalism is not lucrative. Furthermore, if she did get divorced and had to use her university degree to find a job, the fact that she did nothing for a long time after graduation would disadvantage her considerably in a job interview. A university degree is good but work experience is just as important, and employers look for that.

Megan claims that her husband will rely on her as well. He will rely on her for her good looks and her household labor (cooking, cleaning, taking care of children, etc). The reality is that good looks will not last as she ages and household labor is cheap and easily replaced. If the husband loses his wife who did all the housework, he can easily get another wife to do the housework or hire an actual housekeeper for fairly low cost (relative to the cost of a trophy wife).

By: Why I DON’T want to be a trophy wife | Fabulously Broke in the City

Why I DON’T want to be a trophy wife | Fabulously Broke in the City — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 17:00:39 +0000

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By: LivingAlmostLarge

LivingAlmostLarge — Sun, 22 Feb 2009 15:14:31 +0000

Staying home with kids can be rougher than working! I know moms who work to escape their children. So it’s not an easy job.

By: Sallie's Niece

Sallie's Niece — Sun, 22 Feb 2009 04:31:01 +0000

Most trophy wives don’t have much ambition other than being rich and spoiled. You seem like you have actual goals so I don’t think the term is so appropriate. Choosing to stay home with kids and work on the side is a worthwhile goal in my opinion. It’s not what I would choose but different strokes. FWIW however I think journalism degrees are probably the least marketable degree out there right now.

By: LAL

LAL — Sat, 21 Feb 2009 03:40:22 +0000

Dog, I agree that it could be consider SAHM/W without substantial assets. What a fantasy.

By: dogatemyfinances

dogatemyfinances — Fri, 20 Feb 2009 17:34:02 +0000

With only a few $M, you’re just a SAHM/W — even on 500K in NYC. Trophy wives need access to wealth, that’s the entire point.

Besides, if your entire goal in life is gold-digging, you could dig up a whole, whole lot more than that.

I don’t think this is that against the grain. I think we’ve all fantasized about marrying into money, and there’s a reason women throw themselves at rich men. Still, good for Megzn for putting it out there.

By: LivingAlmostLarge

LivingAlmostLarge — Wed, 18 Feb 2009 14:19:37 +0000

I did too. Not many people would put out there wha they really want when it’s against the “grain”.

By: frugal zeitgeist

frugal zeitgeist — Wed, 18 Feb 2009 03:06:31 +0000

LAL – yup, I know she’s not in New York. One of the M states, Minnesota if I remember correctly. I was just trying to make the point that there are a great many other people who want the same thing out there, so it may not be easy.

I’m glad you posted the article. I thought it was really, really interesting precisely because it’s such a different viewpoint. You’re quite right that feminism is about choice. Thanks!

By: LivingAlmostLarge

LivingAlmostLarge — Tue, 17 Feb 2009 23:49:15 +0000

Natalie, there are many stay at home wives who do what Megan is describing.

Dog, how much do you think it takes really for a trophy wife? How do the DABA girls survive if these young guys are “only” making $500k?

FZ, I don’t believe she’s in NY. I think she’s in Michigan.

444, it’s meant to show the otherside. Everyone was down on DABA girls, but there is more than just being a DABA girl.

By: LivingAlmostLarge

LivingAlmostLarge — Tue, 17 Feb 2009 23:46:17 +0000

Meg, I agree it does sound more like a stay at home mom position.

Fit, that’s why I posted it. I think feminism is about choosing how you want to live. We should be open to hearing all sides. Also, I gotta say that sometimes people get bad raps from preconceived notions.

Louise, interesting points.

PA, definitely good points as well. But I can’t help but wonder how many other women marry with hopes of “staying at home” and not working? But NEVER admit it?

Alice, you are free to your own opinion. But remember to every story there are 2 sides. And I think that feminism is about being able to choose what you want to do with your life.