I’m glad you settled the divorce issues with your husband before hand, fengshui. But what happens if it’s an acrimonious divorce? Without a prenup everything is fair game.

I’m not saying it can’t happen, but the chances are it won’t be perfect.

And community is the way it goes in some places.

Not if you don’t take it to court. I have a pension and I’m not giving a dime of it to my hubby. I’ve supported him in the past and have paid things off for him, so I feel that I don’t have to pay him a dime. So, if we divorce, we go our separate ways and not involve attorneys and judges, so the decision isn’t made for us.

I’m not sure what you’re referring to?

The judgement that I was making was Mrs Micah was commenting on her questionable decision to buy her fiance $400 suits, and being paid back right away, when he already spent money on a ring for her. It just seemed odd to me. Engaged is so close to being married. A piece of paper doesn’t change much, in my opinion.

As far as the community property laws, they are so archaic and I wish that they would go away. My hubby and I promised eachother that we would not involve the court if we divorced.

So I don’t think that separate accounts is a bad thing. BUT it doesn’t necessarily mean easy financial break up if you are married in a CP state. Retirement is still included and you still have to make a property settlement, at least according to people I’ve heard from CA.

And splitting expenses is up to the couple. But they should be aware of their state laws if they are concerned.