Comments on: Keeping the Peace

By: Weekly Carnivals and Roundup | LivingAlmostLarge

Weekly Carnivals and Roundup | LivingAlmostLarge — Fri, 03 Oct 2008 16:00:46 +0000

[...] 58th Carnival of Money Stories – Editor’s Choice, “Keeping the Peace“ [...]

By: Carnival of Money Stories « Funny about Money

Carnival of Money Stories « Funny about Money — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 07:56:09 +0000

[...] Living Almost Large Keeping the Peace Reflections on budgeting and matrimonial [...]

By: Carnival of Personal Finance #172 - Meltdown Edition

Carnival of Personal Finance #172 - Meltdown Edition — Mon, 29 Sep 2008 09:46:52 +0000

[...] Living Almost Large shares thoughts on avoiding a marriage meltdown or “keeping the peace” when one partner keeps a financial secret. [...]

By: Pooja Sood

Pooja Sood — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 12:16:37 +0000

thanks a ton. I was lookng for some advice on this. This month I have given the responsibility of our monthly budget to my DH, so that he understands how it goes! grt post. thanks

By: Kristy’s Weekly Roundup

Kristy’s Weekly Roundup — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 04:21:43 +0000

[...] Living Almost Large talked about keeping the peace in a marriage when it came to finances. Inspired by a post about a [...]

By: LivingAlmostLarge

LivingAlmostLarge — Mon, 15 Sep 2008 20:25:16 +0000

Actually NoDebtPlan, if you read the thread, the CC were joint. The difference is the PF blogger trusted his wife was paying it off in full when she wasn’t. And he hadn’t noticed for months, but he thought she was doing what was their “Habit” for years.

I totally understand where he was coming from, but I KNOW why she did it. It’s the same reason why my DH and I had our moments.

It’s marriage. Truth is that it probably came to head because of their twins. I am very much in awe at how well he handled it. I don’t know how well I would handle it.

By: tom

tom — Mon, 15 Sep 2008 16:09:17 +0000

I’m in the same situation as you are, but reverse the roles.

My wife feels trapped by my budget. We get into small fights about everything you mention in your post. Like you, I eased up a bit and stopped making a fuss over the little things she buys every now and then. I’ve learned that little compromises can go a long way.

A good example of this is she bought some small yankee candles the other day. Normally this is something I would question her about, but this time I kept my mouth shut and she was thrilled over her small purchase (the house does smell nice too, I’ll give her that!). It was worth $20.

By: No Debt Plan

No Debt Plan — Mon, 15 Sep 2008 13:32:27 +0000

This is EXACTLY why we have shared accounts on everything. No surprises for either party.

I’d have a freakin’ stroke if it were me. Good grief. Talk about a breach of trust — the foundation of marriage.