Ugh, I gotta admit something.  That my DH is not perfect and neither am I.  I get a lot of “I work hard and I want this now,” “I deserve it for working hard,” and “why are we broke when we earn good money?”. 

Here’s the deal, we’re not perfect and wanting something more is natural.  Having a case of the gimmes, or impulsively spending on something is natural.  Feeling deprived or jealous is also natural.  Wanting a better car, bigger home, going out to eat more is ALL NORMAL!

But it’s how you deal with it.  It’s talking your spouse or yourself back from the edge of reckless spending. It’s deciding that it’s not worth it.  It’s debating carefully whether you really need or want something enough for a sacrifice.

 For us, while DH and I both have our moments of “gotta have it now,” what pulls us back is asking the question “what are we giving up for this?”  And then we let it stew.  We also never purchase big items without debating it at least a week.  When we buy a couch, tv, etc, it’s because we’ve looked at the purchase for weeks and evaluated it. 

Same with a vacation, we’re still considering what to do.  We haven’t decided precisely how much to spend but by careful consideration I’m sure we’ll make the best decision for us.  And so it goes. 

No one is perfect and behaves perfectly.  Everyone is human, everyone has their moments of weakness.