Comments on: Frugality or Stingyness? http://www.livingalmostlarge.com/2008/05/19/frugality-or-stingyness/ Trying to live large ...one step at a time Thu, 11 Mar 2010 19:54:03 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Chicky Finance http://www.livingalmostlarge.com/2008/05/19/frugality-or-stingyness/comment-page-1/#comment-1660 Chicky Finance Tue, 03 Jun 2008 16:23:19 +0000 http://www.livingalmostlarge.com/2008/05/19/frugality-or-stingyness/#comment-1660 Ohh my I totally understand what you are saying. Last fall we went to my brother in law's house. Whole stay they were worry about how much electricty and water we used. Even though I really like them, I dont think I will stay in their house very loooong time. By the way, I thought getting revenge from them when they come to our house. But you know what? I couldnt they came to our place and lived like king and queen. I am just not that type of person. Ohh my I totally understand what you are saying. Last fall we went to my brother in law’s house. Whole stay they were worry about how much electricty and water we used. Even though I really like them, I dont think I will stay in their house very loooong time. By the way, I thought getting revenge from them when they come to our house. But you know what? I couldnt they came to our place and lived like king and queen. I am just not that type of person.

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]]> By: LivingAlmostLarge http://www.livingalmostlarge.com/2008/05/19/frugality-or-stingyness/comment-page-1/#comment-1659 LivingAlmostLarge Wed, 21 May 2008 01:14:31 +0000 http://www.livingalmostlarge.com/2008/05/19/frugality-or-stingyness/#comment-1659 LOL, I like how people comment taking long showers is a bad thing. Considering I can take a 5 minute shower, it's fine. But my in-laws turn off the water heater except for a few hours. Unfortunately that sort of limited the time of showers meaning basically before DH and I got home from going out. And no showers in the morning (which my DH prefers). So he asked them to turn it on. And if they didn't we'd stay in a hotel, but they'd be upset. So I'd just like a shower, but I could stand it cold. Besides they basically wanted 5 people on a one tank. And why I asked my family to put on some clothes. Wearing jeans and a sweatshirt is hardly a compromise. My DH, roomie, and cousin living in DC walked about in t-shirts and shorts. LOL, I like how people comment taking long showers is a bad thing. Considering I can take a 5 minute shower, it’s fine. But my in-laws turn off the water heater except for a few hours. Unfortunately that sort of limited the time of showers meaning basically before DH and I got home from going out. And no showers in the morning (which my DH prefers). So he asked them to turn it on. And if they didn’t we’d stay in a hotel, but they’d be upset. So I’d just like a shower, but I could stand it cold. Besides they basically wanted 5 people on a one tank.

And why I asked my family to put on some clothes. Wearing jeans and a sweatshirt is hardly a compromise. My DH, roomie, and cousin living in DC walked about in t-shirts and shorts.

]]> By: Jim ~ mydebtblog.com http://www.livingalmostlarge.com/2008/05/19/frugality-or-stingyness/comment-page-1/#comment-1658 Jim ~ mydebtblog.com Tue, 20 May 2008 21:55:46 +0000 http://www.livingalmostlarge.com/2008/05/19/frugality-or-stingyness/#comment-1658 I think if you're visiting someone elses house you should respect and be consciouentious towards one another. Taking long showers when others are waiting isn't being considerate. Certain types of food and differences in weather should be expected if you go somewhere out of your norm. I remember when some misionaries came to visit from Africa, mid 70s was freezing to them. There's always resturaunts and hotels you can resort to if where you're going becomes an issue. I'm not a smoker and don't like to go or stay over at places where people who do live. It's their choice to smoke and mine to opt not to. I think if you’re visiting someone elses house you should respect and be consciouentious towards one another. Taking long showers when others are waiting isn’t being considerate. Certain types of food and differences in weather should be expected if you go somewhere out of your norm. I remember when some misionaries came to visit from Africa, mid 70s was freezing to them.

There’s always resturaunts and hotels you can resort to if where you’re going becomes an issue. I’m not a smoker and don’t like to go or stay over at places where people who do live. It’s their choice to smoke and mine to opt not to.

]]> By: Barb1954 http://www.livingalmostlarge.com/2008/05/19/frugality-or-stingyness/comment-page-1/#comment-1653 Barb1954 Tue, 20 May 2008 12:30:31 +0000 http://www.livingalmostlarge.com/2008/05/19/frugality-or-stingyness/#comment-1653 Regarding short showers, my mom always reminds me that they have a septic system. I prefer showers that last 20 minutes but, since I don't want to flood their system, I need to keep them shorter at their house. Regarding short showers, my mom always reminds me that they have a septic system. I prefer showers that last 20 minutes but, since I don’t want to flood their system, I need to keep them shorter at their house.

]]> By: Livingalmostlarge http://www.livingalmostlarge.com/2008/05/19/frugality-or-stingyness/comment-page-1/#comment-1654 Livingalmostlarge Tue, 20 May 2008 04:43:52 +0000 http://www.livingalmostlarge.com/2008/05/19/frugality-or-stingyness/#comment-1654 Meg, this is why DH probably considers my family slothful. Sigh we eat and love to eat, and celebrate and have a good time. My mom still mentinos DH's graduation dinner where we had 1 bottle of wine for 8 people. Sigh. To "overindulge" would have been a sin. A frugality (cheapness). Meg, this is why DH probably considers my family slothful. Sigh we eat and love to eat, and celebrate and have a good time.

My mom still mentinos DH’s graduation dinner where we had 1 bottle of wine for 8 people. Sigh. To “overindulge” would have been a sin. A frugality (cheapness).

]]> By: Meg http://www.livingalmostlarge.com/2008/05/19/frugality-or-stingyness/comment-page-1/#comment-1655 Meg Tue, 20 May 2008 03:01:53 +0000 http://www.livingalmostlarge.com/2008/05/19/frugality-or-stingyness/#comment-1655 Ha! I can't imagine food portions being limited at any family event or get-together. I've never even heard of such a thing! Both sides of my family love to eat and LOVE to feed others, and it is all you can eat all the time. NOT good for thinness, but great for, well, slothfulness I guess. :) Luckily I/we don't eat that way all the time, but family time is definitely eating and relaxing time! I'm similarly unfamiliar with the concept of limiting things like napkins and hot water. I can totally understand living that way yourself, but I can't imagine imposing such restrictions on others - even if others shared my lifestyle I'd still be encouraging them to indulge while I was hostess. Ha! I can’t imagine food portions being limited at any family event or get-together. I’ve never even heard of such a thing! Both sides of my family love to eat and LOVE to feed others, and it is all you can eat all the time. NOT good for thinness, but great for, well, slothfulness I guess. :) Luckily I/we don’t eat that way all the time, but family time is definitely eating and relaxing time!

I’m similarly unfamiliar with the concept of limiting things like napkins and hot water. I can totally understand living that way yourself, but I can’t imagine imposing such restrictions on others – even if others shared my lifestyle I’d still be encouraging them to indulge while I was hostess.

]]> By: LivingAlmostLarge http://www.livingalmostlarge.com/2008/05/19/frugality-or-stingyness/comment-page-1/#comment-1657 LivingAlmostLarge Mon, 19 May 2008 21:38:52 +0000 http://www.livingalmostlarge.com/2008/05/19/frugality-or-stingyness/#comment-1657 LOL, I mention their weights because they are thin. And they would not feed you if you weighed a bit more, you'd lose weight by the end of the visit. They are just people who wouldn't think that people should eat more, there are portions and that's it. My MIL is a good person, but she measures out each portion and decides exactly what you will eat period. Food is not supposed to be well indulged. Everyone in the US should live by their methods and we'd all be super thin. Just like with napkins or showers. There is a lifestyle choice. I'm used to it, and I get them. They are not poor or broke just different. It's just well luxurious to take a shower longer than 5-10 minutes. LOL, I mention their weights because they are thin. And they would not feed you if you weighed a bit more, you’d lose weight by the end of the visit. They are just people who wouldn’t think that people should eat more, there are portions and that’s it. My MIL is a good person, but she measures out each portion and decides exactly what you will eat period. Food is not supposed to be well indulged. Everyone in the US should live by their methods and we’d all be super thin.

Just like with napkins or showers. There is a lifestyle choice. I’m used to it, and I get them. They are not poor or broke just different. It’s just well luxurious to take a shower longer than 5-10 minutes.

]]> By: cinzea http://www.livingalmostlarge.com/2008/05/19/frugality-or-stingyness/comment-page-1/#comment-1656 cinzea Mon, 19 May 2008 21:16:10 +0000 http://www.livingalmostlarge.com/2008/05/19/frugality-or-stingyness/#comment-1656 If people are doing the best they can and afford, I have no problem with that. I respect that. It is not a question of frugal or stingy. If I visit a person in the depths of Honduras, and they open their home to me and serve me the vary same food they eat and the very same floor they sleep on, I respect and appreciate that. However, if I go to someone's home who can easily afford lobsters and they serve me dog food, that person is just downright cheap and incosiderate! And I would never go back ever again. When I visit my in laws, I know they are doing the best they can and are sharing with me the best they can reasonably afford. If the house is cold, I wear a sweater. If they serve me rice and beans and just one glass of wine, then so be it. I respect them regardless. If people are doing the best they can and afford, I have no problem with that. I respect that. It is not a question of frugal or stingy. If I visit a person in the depths of Honduras, and they open their home to me and serve me the vary same food they eat and the very same floor they sleep on, I respect and appreciate that.
However, if I go to someone’s home who can easily afford lobsters and they serve me dog food, that person is just downright cheap and incosiderate! And I would never go back ever again.
When I visit my in laws, I know they are doing the best they can and are sharing with me the best they can reasonably afford. If the house is cold, I wear a sweater. If they serve me rice and beans and just one glass of wine, then so be it. I respect them regardless.

]]> By: LivingAlmostLarge http://www.livingalmostlarge.com/2008/05/19/frugality-or-stingyness/comment-page-1/#comment-1663 LivingAlmostLarge Mon, 19 May 2008 18:41:22 +0000 http://www.livingalmostlarge.com/2008/05/19/frugality-or-stingyness/#comment-1663 Understand that this was a vacation and lobster is fresh from Maine. It tastes different and I think of it as an experience. So I have no issues with it. I think of it part of "hosting". However, visiting the in-laws, um, well I can't just stay in a hotel. DH never thought it was weird to live like that, until I visited for the first time. Then when I mentioned how I'd love to have more to eat, something to drink not coke (water, juice, anything), and more hot water (his parents turn it off so if you are last you are SOL), then he made a few mentions. Sometimes people don't even realize they are doing it like my in-laws. They turned back on the water heater so everyone could have a hot shower in the middle WINTER! It's canada and it's COLD! Understand that this was a vacation and lobster is fresh from Maine. It tastes different and I think of it as an experience. So I have no issues with it. I think of it part of “hosting”.

However, visiting the in-laws, um, well I can’t just stay in a hotel. DH never thought it was weird to live like that, until I visited for the first time. Then when I mentioned how I’d love to have more to eat, something to drink not coke (water, juice, anything), and more hot water (his parents turn it off so if you are last you are SOL), then he made a few mentions.

Sometimes people don’t even realize they are doing it like my in-laws. They turned back on the water heater so everyone could have a hot shower in the middle WINTER! It’s canada and it’s COLD!

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